There are a number of couples out there whose dreams do not turn out the way they planned. Sometimes man proposes and God disposes, let’s face it that is the way it is. For hundreds of couples across the world, a positive sign on a home pregnancy test is the ultimate joy. However, sometimes, the life that is breeding inside you can end prematurely. That feeling of joy that you had initially is replaced with an emptiness that is difficult to replace with anything else.
Miscarriages may be common, that does not mean that they are not difficult to deal with. For people who have not experienced a miscarriage, including your husband may not understand that feelings that you are experiencing. They may often not know what to say and may not know how to help you as well. You may end up asking yourself the same question again and again as to how you can overcome this miscarriage and start planning another child.
While not everyone experiences the same feelings, the points discussed below can help you move on and look at things from a different perspective so that you can start planning a family again.
1) Grieve – It’s OK
You must understand that it is okay to grieve. If you are feeling terrible, cry, if you feel like it is the end of the world, you have the right to feel so. However, you need your support system around you, people who can bring you back to life after you have completed the five stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally arrive at acceptance.
Everyone will experience these stages, but not everyone will face them in the same order will have them for the same amount of time. The final step is accepting the miscarriage and being ready to move on. If you think you need help, consult a counselor who can guide you through the grief process and help you manage the pain and sorrow that does not seem to leave your bedside.
2) Be Positive
When you grieve, you may develop thoughts that are distorted and not real. You will often look for someone to blame and start looking for reasons why the miscarriage happened. You may start becoming angry with your partner and forget about things that should matter. Having a miscarriage does not mean that you cannot have a family or you cannot try again. While this may seem difficult, it is important that you look at the brighter side and thank God for what you have been blessed with. Look at the larger picture and start thinking about how you are going to move forward.
You have to talk. Talk to your partner; do not alienate your self. Tell them how you feel, tell them what you need, talk about the future and find out how you can get out of feeling miserable and start planning a life ahead.
4) Don’t Pressurize Yourself
Soon, you may be ready to start trying to have a baby again. However, do not be disheartened if it does not happen soon. Do not blame your partner. Do not blame yourself. Instead, focus on cherishing your relationship and love your partner, and sooner rather than later, you will see the stick turn up a positive sign again.
Stay healthy and find out how it is that you can make your body stronger, consult a Registered Holistic Nutritionist so that you can learn as to what foods can help you make your body stronger. Seek natural options from a homeopath to make your body and mind both stronger before you start planning a family again.